Sienna Miller kisses her boyfriend in front of her ex – what it means
Sienna Miller sparked discussion when she appeared at Wimbledon over the weekend – and it had nothing to do with the elegant off-the-shoulder white dress she wore.
The 40-year-old actress was spotted kissing her new boyfriend, 25-year-old actor Oli Green, who she has been dating for several months.
So far so good – except there were also her ex-fiancé, actor Tom Sturridge, 36, and his partner, presenter Alexa Chung, 38, seated courtside in the seats directly behind them .
Miller and Sturridge, who split in 2015 after four years together, are co-parents to nine-year-old daughter Marlowe.
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In 2017, the actress told Harper’s Bazaar that their breakup was not “acrimonious” and that they “still love each other”.
Indeed, the pair appeared to be on good terms, with the two pairs of couples at one point happily posing for a selfie together.
However, the warm dynamic will have been a surprising sight for those who find it difficult to stay in the same room as an ex-partner, let alone spend a day with them and their other half.
Plus, relationship experts think there might be more to Miller and Sturridge’s respective kisses than meets the eye.
Referring specifically to Miller’s thought process, psychologist and psychotherapist Nova Cobban notes that it “may have involved wanting to let others know that she is happy, that her relationship is passionate, and that she is loved.
“It becomes important in front of an ex to communicate after having moved on and having managed to find a new relationship.
“It’s also possible that she wants her new boyfriend to feel safe with her ex, and a kiss is often a way to reassure or connect in a moment of uncertainty.”
Of course, Miller’s PDA may have nothing to do with her ex’s presence: chances are she was simply caught up in the moment of being with her current partner.
“Often we may be trying to say with our body language something that we wouldn’t verbalize,” Cobban says.
“We want to feel like the old relationship no longer has a hold on us and we often want to show it publicly – whether it’s true or not – that we’re happy and in a great new relationship.”
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But what about the etiquette that comes with kissing a new partner in front of your ex? Jessica Alderson, relationship expert and co-founder of So Syncd, believes it depends on the individual scenario.
She explains: “It depends if you’re both on the breakup.
“If you think there’s a chance he still likes you, it’s best to avoid kissing your new partner in front of your ex – it’s important to show them empathy and respect.
“A good way to think about situations like this is how you would feel if you were in that person’s shoes. If you’re both completely into each other, then that’s fine. and essentially no different than kissing your other half in front of a friend.”
However, Alderson insists that you shouldn’t rush into being overtly intimate with a new partner — even if it may feel momentarily empowering.
She warns: “If you had a bad breakup – let’s say your ex cheated on you or broke up with you out of nowhere – kissing a new partner in front of an ex can temporarily do you some good.
“However, that feeling will come from a place of resentment rather than genuine trust. While it may make you feel good in the moment, that feeling won’t last.
“In the long run, it’s better to focus on yourself and your own happiness rather than your ex.