Review “Being Me”: a personal report that will resonate with many readers
Don’t judge a book by its cover, they say. We take a step forward and say, don’t judge content by style.
Being me is written in a rather casual style, which first makes it appear as an urban woman’s airy journey through two milestones in life: marriage and motherhood.
However, in conversational and often irreverent vocabulary, there is also pain. The pain of impending infertility that uterine tuberculosis foreshadowed. The decision to leave a career in favor of motherhood, the trials and tribulations of raising children, and also to find one’s own space and identity, in a new career. Identifiable, isn’t it?
Kshipra Bhandari Narain’s account is a personal account, and there are no surprises in store for the reader on the next page. It is a steady journey through a phase of life, with stumbling blocks and shocks expected.
She almost writes as if she is thinking out loud, talking to herself. It’s a style that is slightly reminiscent of that of Helen Fielding Bridget Jones Diary. Yet it was fiction, it is real life.
Narain also tries his hand at poetry, interweaving his distracted prose. The style perhaps reflects the author’s conflicting emotions, as, between a busy day as a mother of two, she questions her life choices, and then, later, takes small steps towards a new career. .
This book, in a sense, is a cathartic experience for her. Somewhere during her eight-year journey, she found new faith – in Buddha – new confidence in her abilities and, certainly, contentment.
Example : And I’m upside down in love with where I am right now. I wouldn’t trade anything for this situation. My perplexities. My dizziness. My family. My work. My complexities, My ecstasies. Finally, everything falls into place.
Narain’s work may not rank very high in terms of literary merit, in fact, it could bring many improvements to his style and vocabulary. Yet the book will resonate with many readers, women in their thirties who are faced with choices that are not really choices. Because each choice has a price.
Narain also presents a fleeting but empathetic glimpse into the human mind. If marriage and parenthood are life changing experiences, then her Mr. Macho has changed her life as well.
Be me … a woman in progress 24×7
By Kshipra Bhandari Narain
Posted by Vishwakarma Editors
Price Rs 280, pages 211